Q.How to overcome fear?

This is one of the most wide talked topic. Whatever be the reason. Everyone of us has faced it. And it has taught several lessons. I am here to discuss why this arose? What can be do’s and don’ts. How to overcome this miserable situation? Will we even come out of the situation? How much time it would take? Why we feel that fear?

I will share my experience what I was and How I came over the fear with constant efforts of working after a period. You can apply to those once you face it and repeat the story to overcome it again and again. And it goes like this:-

I have faced fear thousands of time. There is no doubt about that. When I was in high school. I was most feared guy. I even not able to talk a friend properly. You can say I was introvert and shy to talk and express. I had very few friends. Nobody gave a space to think about me. I was alone all the way. No way to overcome it all. But one thing is sure that I was involved in several co-curricular activity of my school. People know me but I don’t feel that. This is because I have fear in my mind that they would laugh if I say something awkward. Oftenly I would admit that I made lots of awkward comment. Which leads to more fun of me. I keep avoiding my friend circle. And the result is I became more introvert and shy. I made my own world. I have no group of friends but one friend. With whom we discuss everything after the dinner sitting or walking somewhere in the garden or straight road.

When I entered the college. I started realizing that there is few like me. Who also feels the same awkwardness like me. They were too not intellectually well. Means don’t know many things other than book or around the world.

While I was pursing my Hons degree at Delhi university, I was staying with my brother-in-law. He told me that go to college and be like a cool guy to answer what you know without any fear. Keep asking question whether your mates mock you or not. I did the same.

But things has taken another side of that. My friend taken that notes and all started calling me with a name, which means ‘I disagree sir’. This guy is showing and asking too much question. Objecting at every single question and put a point. How can we tolerate this guy. We can’t afford it.

Things turned good in few months. First time in my life I checked the world of internet for any purposeful activity. That was year of 2013. I was not comfortable with that. But I made it somehow with the help of the instructor. Then I keep visiting the computer lab to check my email. In few years, I become frequent and become use to it. When that happened I found the power of internet. There were millions of videos and articles written for help. I got amazed with that. So, I started reading a lot and I started finding the reasons of my answer. What I ask and say was already known to everyone. That’s why they feel irritating with my question raising. I got that. Another thing, I was living in full ideal world. Most of the time, I become stubborn, which is awkward to them. Sooner I found millions of answers like this. Later got confident that there were millions of people like me. Who shares the same view like me. So, there is less to worry. Go ahead with this. So, I moved on and defeated the peer pressure and fear.

Means in short reading a lot will make you feel good. So, read as much as you can. Feed your brain with the content you are telling yourself with a solution focused. If you do that. Like me you can come out of the feeling too small. No matter what you have to work hard, and feel the change.

#Few tips you may have to do when you feel insecure,small and facing fear for long time:-

1. Talk to the one whom you think that he can solve your problem. Keep repeating till you get the answers you want to relate it. May be several people or one. Depends all upon you.

2. Keep reading as much as you can. Get the sufficient data to make decision. Get the required information why is this fear has been with you for long.

3. Most important work hard everyday to get the things done. You might feel fear several time before closing the deal or what you want. But don’t give up soon.

4. Try,try and try. If it’s not working for a several months, or a year. Move on. That may not be for you. If you still feel you can make it. Give it a try untill you get it. Set the time period for that.

5. There are several factors for your fear. Just face it. Skipping will never be your best friend. It will hurt you again and again if it is going to pose some value in your life at any time.

6. Get in action mode that reduce half of the fear. You will feel secure once you know the things. You build up confidence and that leads to mitigate your fear everyday slowly and slowly. So, I would say work hard.

7. Leave all the things that made you this. It may not be easy but keep reducing the bad habit day by day. You may think I can do that in a day or two. But once human brain get the taste, it is very hard to come back. So, take appropriate action to get over the bad habit. And Practice and repeat.

8. Working everyday will surely reduce your fear. Don’t involve in other activity which distract you, rather find optional for that. That would be best for you.

9. Put the expectation as per your working style. Don’t imagine to become billionaire in your 30’s without working for 10-12 hours for several years. Or something like having hot girlfriend without having anything extra with you, if not rich.

I would conclude that, You have to take action. Which is best part to come over fear of feeling small or worrying too much. Figure out the things you need to take action. If you sit down with a pen. Write the things you want to do it. You will then get what you fears. Otherwise orally you keep revolving and never be able to reach out to the point. So, Just take action and excel it.

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